Red Flags indicating a victim is at high risk of being killed or almost killed by her abuser


A Cry For Justice

This infographic comes from DVRCV (Domestic Violence Resource Centre Victoria, Australia). It highlights the factors that put family violence victims at increased risk of being killed or seriously injured. These risk factors have been ascertained by research that looked at the backstory of lethal and near-lethal cases of domestic violence.

The infographic can be downloaded as a PDF from https://www.thelookout.org.au/new-infographic-risk-factors.

You may find that when you click that link you get a warning message saying the site is not secure. We think DVRCV might have arranged that link to give a warning message so as to alert victims of abuse to in case the victim’s computer or phone may be monitored by her abuser, and to give her a moment to consider whether to proceed further if she is using a computer or phone which her abuser also uses or might be covertly surveilling. Barb got a warning message when she first clicked on the link; she decided…

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Before Marrying Again… Ask These Questions


The first marriage ended in divorce. The second one is going to be different. But how can a person be sure that they are not making another mistake of a different caliber? This is a checklist that I use with clients during premarital counseling. It has been developed over the last 15 years spent counseling thousands of couples prior to marriage. Ask clients to look through the following checklist and check all that apply. Are there frequent arguments over nothing with little resolution? Do you or your partner use biting sarcasm to confront issues? Are you staying in the relationship out of fear or worry? Do you have few areas of common interest? Are you or is your partner overly dependent on parents or children? Are there any signs of physical, sexual, verbal, emotional, mental, spiritual, or financial abuse both present and in the past? Do you avoid discussing sensitive topics or are you afraid of their reaction? Does your partner frequently complain about unreal aches and pains?

Source: Before Marrying Again… Ask These Questions

Recognize a Manipulator


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Psychopath Resistance

via Be Aware of These 8 Signs Of A Manipulator.

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BY KRIS LEE

While we all are manipulative to some degree, manipulators engage in set behaviors on a regular basis. Manipulators use deceptive and underhanded tactics by exploiting another person for power, control, and privileges at the other person’s expense. They play on your good intentions, vulnerabilities, and weaknesses to get what they want.  Don’t be surprised if a manipulator is someone you trust or even love.

When someone is clearly wronging or hurting you and you are the one feeling bad and apologizing for their wrong doings, you are being manipulated. Manipulative behaviors are learned, most often in childhood. Thus, unfortunately it’s something that can’t be quickly unlearned. So, watch out for some common signs to spot them and once you do…

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Saying goodbye to toxic friends an important milestone in Abuse Recovery


Bottom line, all breakups HURT — but losing someone who does not respect or appreciate your time, friendship, loyalty, or boundaries is actually a benefit. | Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Flying Monkeys — Oh My! (TM)

Source: Saying goodbye to toxic friends an important milestone in Abuse Recovery