Some of us were fortunate and/or resilient enough that we had or developed relationships with a few safe people that we could count on in childhood. Role models that had character and modeled respectful, loving, functional behavior towards us. However, for many targets, the majority of our messages came from unsafe (narcissistic parents).
We were not protected from unsafe people nor were we taught how to identify and protect ourselves from unsafe people because we were being raised by the very unsafe people that we needed to be protected from.
UNSAFE PARENTS DONT PROTECT US OR GIVE US POSITIVE MESSAGES ABOUT OUR WORTH
During our formative years we rely on the messages from our parents to determine our identity and worth. Our parents mirror our worth via their interactions with us. If most of that interplay lacks boundaries and involves: shallow emotional connection, selfishness and self absorption, dismissive (I’m too busy for you- staring at their phone or watch)…
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