Five Indicators of an Evil Heart


I know what evil is because I see it very clearly in the world every single day. Just read the news.  You cannot convince me evil does not exist. Lets face it, raping babies and setting people on fire is evil. That evil is overt and obvious. But the evil I was subjected to was so covert. So subtle. I didn’t even realize what I was dealing with.

I thought I was in a relationship with a troubled soul, not an evil one. He says he has a “mood disorder” but doesn’t elaborate. (My theory he is either bi-polar or borderline with heavy narc tendencies) He even said he feared being struck down for being with me. I thought it was because we come from different faiths and he is observant in his very traditional religion. We share the same God (of Abraham, Issac & Jacob). At the time I thought that was a completely ridiculous statement as, in my belief, God has no problem with two people loving each other. It fact he requires it. But he does not want us to be unequally yoked (with an unbeliever). And please note, I wasn’t preachy or trying to convert him. Now I see it wasn’t just religious differences that we struggled with in our relationship. It was spiritual warfare! He was doing evil to me and he knew it was wrong. His intentions were no good from Day One. And he was afraid!

Now I understand, in hindsight, he had good reason to be afraid. Abusing a widow is a big no-no in the Word of God (Exodus 22:22-24 states: 22 You shall not mistreat any widow or fatherless child. 23 If you do mistreat them, and they cry out to me, I will surely hear their cry, 24 and my wrath will burn, and I will kill you with the sword, and your wives shall become widows and your children fatherless.)

Miraculously, he must have been cured of his fear because he continued to abuse me for years afterwards. Can you say trauma bonds? Thank God, my Heavenly Father, He is faithful to His children and He opened my eyes to the insanity and got me outta there before my abuser completely destroyed my soul. Which may have been his goal all along. What he did to me was akin to a hate crime. He hates me. He targeted me for destruction because I loved him. Its the only thing that makes sense now.

Anyway, this article about dealing with a person with an evil heart by a Christian counselor was quite interesting. The wolves in sheep’s clothing are found in all religions and they prowl for innocent blood. Please use discernment and protect yourselves and your children from these predators. ~ NB

Link to original article here: http://leslievernick.com/five-indicators-of-a-evil-heart/#comment-27321

Five Indicators of An Evil Heart 

January 19, 2015 by Leslie Vernick

I think one of the reasons we don’t “see” evil is because we find it so difficult to believe that evil individuals actually exist. We can’t imagine someone deceiving us with no conscience, hurting others with no remorse, spinning outrageous fabrications to ruin someone’s reputation, or pretending he or she is spiritually committed yet has no fear of God before his or her eyes

The Bible clearly tells us that among God’s people there are wolves that wear sheep’s clothing (Jeremiah 23:14Titus 1:10; Revelations 2:2). It’s true that every human heart is inclined toward sin (Romans 3:23), and that includes evil (Genesis 8:21James 1:4). We all miss God’s mark of moral perfection. However, most ordinary sinners do not happily indulge evil urges, nor do we feel good about having them. We feel ashamed and guilty, rightly so (Romans 7:19-21). These things are not true of the evil heart.

Below are five indicators that you may be dealing with an evil heart rather than an ordinary sinful heart. If so, it requires a radically different treatment approach.

  1. Evil hearts are experts at creating confusion and contention. They twist the facts, mislead, lie, avoid taking responsibility, deny reality, make up stories, and withhold information (Exodus 2:1Psalms 5:8; 10:7; 58:3; 109:2-5; 140:2; Proverbs 6:13,14; 6:18,19; 12:13; 16:20; 16:27, 28; 30:14; Job 15:35Jeremiah 18:18Nehemiah 6:8;Micah 2:1Matthew 12:34,35Acts 6:11-132 Peter 3:16).
  1. Evil hearts are experts at fooling others with their smooth speech and flattering words. But if you look at the fruit of their lives or the follow through of their words, you will find no real evidence of godly growth or change. It’s all smoke and mirrors (Psalm 50:19; 52:2,3; 57:4, 59:7; 101:7; Proverbs 12:5; 26:23-26; 26:28; Job 20:12Jeremiah 9:34; 12:6; Matthew 26:59Acts 6:11-13Romans 16:13,182 Corinthians 11:13,142 Timothy 3:2-5; 3:13; Titus 1:10,16).
  1. Evil hearts crave and demand control and their highest authority is their own self-reference. They reject feedback, real accountability and make up their own rules to live by. They use Scripture to their own advantage but ignore and reject passages that might require self-correction and repentance (Romans 2:8Psalms 10; 36:1-4; 50:16-22; 54:5,6; 73:6-9; Proverbs 21:24Jude 1:8-16).
  1. Evil hearts play on the sympathies of good-willed people, often trumping the grace card. They demand mercy but give none themselves. They demand warmth, forgiveness, and intimacy from those they have harmed with no empathy for the pain they have caused and no real intention of making amends or working hard to rebuild broken trust (Proverbs 21:101 Peter 2:16Jude 1:4).
  1. Evil hearts have no conscience, no remorse. They do not struggle against sin or evil, they delight in it, all the while masquerading as someone of noble character. (Proverbs 2:14-15; 10:23; 12:10; 21:27,29 Isaiah 32:6Romans 1:302 Corinthians 11:13-15).

If you are working with someone who exhibits these characteristics it’s important that you confront them head on. You must name evil for what it is. The longer you try to reason with them or show mercy towards them, the more you, as the Christian counselor, will become a pawn in his or her game.

They want you to believe that:

  1. Their horrible actions should have no serious or painful consequences. When they say, “I’m sorry”, they look to you as the pastor or Christian counselor to be their advocate for amnesty with the person they have harmed. They believe grace means they are immediately granted immunity from the relational fallout of their serious sin. They believe forgiveness entitles them to full reconciliation and will pressure you and their victim to comply.

The Bible warns us saying, “But when grace is shown to the wicked, they do not learn righteousness; even in a land of uprightness they go on doing evil and do not regard the majesty of the Lord (Isaiah 26:10).

The Bible tells us that talking doesn’t wake up evil people but painful consequences might. Jesus didn’t wake up the Pharisees with his talk nor did God’s counsel impact Cain (Genesis 4). In addition, the Bible shows us that when someone is truly sorry for the pain they have caused, they are eager to make amends to those they have harmed by their sin. (See Zacchaeus’s response when he repented of his greed in Luke 19.)

Tim Keller writes, “If you have been the victim of a heinous crime. If you have suffered violence, and the perpetrator (or even the judge) says, “Sorry, can’t we just let it go? You would say, “No, that would be an injustice.” Your refusal would rightly have nothing to do with bitterness or vengeance. If you have been badly wronged, you know that saying sorry is never enough. Something else is required some kind of costly payment must be made to put things right.” [1]

As Biblical counselors let’s not collude with the evil one by turning our attention to the victim, requiring her to forgive, to forget, to trust again when there has been no evidence of inner change in the one who has been practicing evil. Proverbs says, “Trusting in a treacherous man in time of trouble is like a bad tooth or a foot that slips” (Proverbs. 25:19). It’s foolishness.

The evil person will also try to get you to believe

  1. That if I talk like a gospel-believing Christian I am one, even if my actions don’t line up with my talk. Remember, Satan masquerades as an angel of light (2 Corinthians 11:13-15). He knows more true doctrine than you or I will ever know but his heart is wicked. Why? Because although he knows the truth, he does not believe it or live it.

The Bible has some strong words for those whose actions do not match their talk (1 John 3:17,18Jeremiah 7:8,10James 1:22, 26). John the Baptist said it best when he admonished the religious leaders: “Prove by the way you live that you have repented of your sins and turned to God (Luke 3:8).

If week after week you hear the talk but there is no change in the walk of that person, especially if you are also receiving feedback from the person who has been sinned against that there is continued covert harm, deceit, and manipulation, you have every reason to question that person’s relationship with God.

Part of our maturity as spiritual leaders is that we are to be trained to discern between good and evil. Why is that so important? It’s important because evil usually pretends to be good and without godly discernment we can be easily fooled (Hebrews 5:14).

When you confront evil, chances are good that the evil heart will stop counseling with you because the darkness hates the light (John 3:20) and the foolish and evil heart reject correction (Proverbs 9:7,8). But that outcome is far better than allowing the evil heart to believe you are on his or her side, or that “he’s not that bad” or “that he’s really sorry,” or “that he’s changing” when in fact, he is not.

Daniel says, “the wicked will continue to be wicked”, (Daniel 12:10), which begs the question, do you think an evil person can really change?

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3 thoughts on “Five Indicators of an Evil Heart

  1. Thank you so much for sharing this post. Many people are duped by evil people. For some reason, we don’t want to call it what it is. So, we’ll say the person is “mean.” More often than not, we’re dealing with an “evil” heart. The only thing that will stop en evil person dead in their tracks is being found out–shining the light on them because they only operate in darkness, chaos and confusion. Thank you for sharing Isaiah 26:10 because many people think everyone deserves to be forgiven. Luke 17:3-4 indicates they should repent and ask for forgiveness, but most evil people will never admit that they’re harmed another. Instead, they’ll blame it on the victim. Most people don’t know what the Bible says, only what people say it says, and most people only share the verses that are beneficial to them. Thank you for sharing all the Bible verses in this post.

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    • Thank you so much Lynette for your comments about the article. It really is so good and packed with Scripture to back it up (I love that!!!). I was also under the assumption that everyone deserves forgiveness and we should always forgive as God forgives us. And this is a popular message (both secular and religious) especially to abuse survivors. The part they tend not to mention is that forgiveness goes hand in hand with repentance and making amends. Because when you forgive the person without them asking for it or showing any evidence of true repentance then we give them license to continue to abuse us. The cycle will not end unless they have a real change of heart and actually stop the abusive behavior or we decide enough is enough. Which is something I myself did not fully grasp until the end of my abusive relationship. Evil people prey on our ability to forgive and trust and love others. Darkness is attracted to the light. We need discernment when dealing with people in these days. We need to be innocent as doves and shewd as serpents. Be blessed!

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      • Oh P.S. Lynette you said: “Most people don’t know what the Bible says, only what people say it says”. This is so true. The Bible is relatively simple to read and many don’t or won’t and this is how they can be deceived. God teaches us through His Word. People who don’t read it really miss out on a lot of lessons. Heck, if they read ONLY the Book of Proverbs they would be blessed with wisdom. 😉

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